How do betas even get laid?
Yet another reader with an odd conundrum:
Reading much of the articles and blogs on game, it has come to the conclusion of nearly everyone that women hate beta males and beta behaviors, and that they are seen as incredibly unattractive and pitiful. They then say that girls love alpha males or men that exhibit alpha behavior, such as the overused archetype of the “bad boy”. I have believed this to be true even before reading the first “game” blog, but I feel that this is quite exaggerated to the point where it sounds like betas are doomed to celibacy and completely invisible to women while alphas monopolize all the women. Over half of teenagers have had sex in high school, and most of the males there are “beta.” I always wondered how they ever had a shot at finding someone if they had no confidence in themselves. From my experience, very few are actually alpha.
So over the summer, I visited my cousin (who is a freshman in HS then) and when I was talking to her, she told me she got “pumped and dumped” (as you guys would call it) by her now ex-bf. (a junior). Now I what your thinking. I thought this guy must have been some super-alpha badboy cad douchebag who had his way with girls and gave girls the tingles with his asshole game. He was the complete opposite. He was a textbook beta pussy.
They dated for a month of so, and he wrote her poetry and sent her love letters, and he invested way too much time into her, bought her gifts like oversized teddy bears, and talked for hours on the phone. He was also very insecure, he would yell at her for talking to his friend, since he assumed she liked him and would leave him for another guy, then she said she would break up with him. She told me that he cried for hours, and was completely broken about the thought of her leaving him. He then attempted to save the relationship by literally begging his way into her pants, saying that sex would “save the relationship.” I cannot believe it worked.
I hear guys complain all the time how could girls fall for the “lowlife thug” or “outlaw biker,” but i’m complaining how spineless romcom dipshits and supplementing teddy bear chumps get sex.
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Betas do get laid. Let’s never say the beta doesn’t get laid. The average number of lifetime sexual partners for men in the USA is 7, and being as most men are Delta Males (that is, typical game Beta), they must get laid. The average joe – a delta – will get laid typical 1 to 1.5 times the average, so he’s looking to have sex with 7 to 10 different women over the course of 85 years.
If I could side track – Some poor bastard out there will be lucky if, by the time he dies, he has successfully laid one new woman a decade. If this is you, get to work on your game, son! I don’t want any of my readers to be that guy.
Back to the point! Betas will get laid on their own, but typically they have to resort to begging and/or getting lucky. Betas getting laid is a result of getting a girl drunk and spam approaching like a motherfucker or its a result of persistent nagging and isolation.
I suspect a majority of false rape charges are leveled against Delta Males because the woman realizes she’s given up something precious in exchange for absolutely nothing. He did not have any higher value, he wasn’t that good in bed, and he was only moderately attractive. All of a sudden, she begins to regret her decision to sleep with this man and a night of lust, passion, and silly mistakes becomes rape and a man’s life is ruined.
You see, a Delta will go to a bar with his bros every weekend of the month and will dance with random chicks, buy drinks left and right, and drop more money that any man should in a single weekend. He will do this over and over, rarely getting discouraged, and one night he will strike gold and find the girl that’s just lonely enough and has just the right amount of alcohol in her that it results in a bang. Obviously this is a bang the girl will regret, especially if it costs her a stable relationship with a man of equal or higher value. That is why rape culture is so handy for women to have around – it’s like a big eraser for her. She fucks a guy who turns out to be not worth it, and her mate of greater value finds out. Well shit, it was rape! He got me drunk and I wasn’t in a position to make a rational decision about sleeping with him, and he made me say yes. Because, you know, he tired her up and forced her to take that beer bong.
The other method of getting laid from a delta is also likely to result in false rape charges. A delta is the kind of guy who says “lets go out with a group of friends” and then no one else shows up. He is the kind of guy to literally beg a girl if he has to (though this tends to be more of a gamma tendency) in order to get in her pants. As our reader points out, it wouldn’t be unusual for a delta (though one with heavy gamma tendencies) to tell a girl that if they have sex things will be better, or please oh please just give me a chance! Anything he has to say or do in order to secure a notch he will.
The two main approaches you see with delta males when it comes to sex is either: Right place, right time, great success; or wear her down emotionally and mentally until she gives in and pity fucks you. I will say you are more likely to see the former than the latter with delta males – though both happen.
I, also, don’t mean to imply that the only sex deltas will have will result in false rape charges – I do mean to say that the risk is higher for them. If a woman truly enjoys fucking you, she will never say you raped her – I can tell you this from first hand experience as I’ve actually had a girl defend me instead of accusing me of instigating her sexual misconduct.
If you bring something to the table – whether you make her laugh a lot, demonstrate that you’re more worthwhile than her current mate, etc – she will enjoy the sex with you and will be less likely to turn on you. You’re a male whose genes will highly benefit her offspring and it is in her genetic best interest to fuck you, and keep her provider around as well.
This doesn’t mean, however, that Alphas and other high status men are immune to false rape hysteria – it is simply an observation.
At the end of the day, your typical delta (“beta”) male will get laid on occasion and will shuffle off this mortal coil with a good seven or so notches under his belt. However, few of them will be with top tier or attractive women, and most of them will have not been worth the trouble he went through to get them. It will cost him a lot of money, a lot of time, and a lot of pointless heartache from wasted years in bad relationships to get him those seven notches – but he will get them nonetheless. Be glad, friends, that we’re on this side of things.
Even though we put a lot of work into who we are, we are constantly judging, upgrading, weighing, tweaking and remeasuring ourselves, the amount of work we put in reaps greater rewards for us in the long run and I have a feeling that when you look back on your life, you’ll find you actually put in less work than the poor beta.
